You are not alone if you have never seen 2 pinks lines.
You are not alone if you have seen two pink lines, but your arms are still empty.
You are not alone if you have to give yourself shots.
You are not alone if going to see the doctor (again) drains you of all your energy.
You are not alone if you are hopeful during a 2 week wait.
You are not alone if the thought of another 2 week wait makes your heart anxious.
You are not alone if you have ever laid in bed crying and wondering When? and Why?
You are not alone if you have felt like the only one who really feels like this.
You are not alone if you feel like you just can’t act like you have it all together one more day.
You are not alone if you are scared and confused.
You are not alone if you are questioning everything…from trying to have your own child, to learning about surrogates and gestational carriers.
You are not alone if you have heard that you are dealing with bad eggs.
You are not alone if you have heard that your partner has male infertility factors.
You are not alone if you are just giving it one more month.
You are not alone if you are afraid to say something to anyone because you anticipate a hurtful comment.
You are not alone if you need to seek a support group, find a counselor, take a break.
You are not alone if you engage in social media for support
You are not alone if you can’t remember the “pre-trying to conceive” you.
You are not alone if you aren’t sure when to seek help or talk to a specialist.
You are not alone if you are dealing with secondary infertility.
You are not alone if you are led down a path to adoption.
You are not alone if you need to use donor eggs or donor sperm.
You are not alone if you feel like you can’t plan your life because you don’t know what the next 4 weeks will look like.
You are not alone if you have cut out gluten, dairy, sugar, red meat, vegetables that rhyme with “bale”, caffeine, anything with red dye …. all in hopes that this could be the thing that helps you get pregnant.
I could go on and on and on.
The point is, you are not alone. There are others out there with a similar story as you, feeling similar emotions, running down similar paths and wondering the same questions. Can I encourage you today to share your story? No, maybe it’s not going to be “coming out” on Facebook, but perhaps it’s telling a friend or a family member. Perhaps it’s starting the conversation with something like “What I am about to tell you is really hard for me because this is such a vulnerable and sensitive subject and I am just asking you to listen and be supportive …” I have a feeling that there will be many domino effects created as a result of your bravery to break the silence surrounding infertility.
Can I share one more thing?
I think that the greatest thing in the message You Are Not Alone is that you really aren’t ever alone because there is a God who loves you so much who is on the road with you, day in and day out. There are times and seasons where He seems so quiet. The silence of God is only temporary and I find it’s in the seasons of silence where I learn the most about Him and about myself. But apart from the seasons of silence, there are seasons of rich fellowship and community that is built by bringing our requests to His feet and trusting Him to walk with us down a path that is so hard, a path where we feel so weary.
God doesn’t always do exactly what we want Him to do, when we want Him to do it. I do believe though that even in the waiting and in the struggle of infertility, He is with us and because of that, we are never ever alone. We are never alone in the wee small hours of the morning when you’re hunched on the bathroom floor staring at another blank test. We are never alone when the ultrasound tech whispers “I am so sorry … let me get the doctor.” We are never alone when the emotions are bubbling.
I pray that we can all find deep, meaningful, rich relationships with others who are struggling, so that they are reminded that they are not the outcasts!
Keep your chins up ladies, infertility does NOT get to beat us. We are not alone.
C. J. is a 30-year old wife & mom to a furbaby. Her blog (Starbucks, Peace, and the Pursuit of a Baby) is an extension of her brain, heart and life. She is navigating through a world dealing with infertility and realizing more and more that she is utterly in need of her Savior to survive. Infertility doesn’t define her, and even though life doesn’t always go according to plan, she is blessed in so many ways.
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