It is not for nothing that Viagra use in men has tripled, according to a recent report, nor is it coincidental that there are many merchants of local concoctions at almost every nook and cranny of the city, selling one mixture or the other with the promise that it would improve the sexual appetite and even longevity of men in the bedroom. It is because there is a clear challenge in that part of men’s lives.
And in cases where men are even able to get an erection, there is a disheartening report that says the sperm count of men has halved over the last forty years, and as we speak, the World Health Organisation has reduced the borderline of normal sperm count to 15 million instead of the 20 million it had been pegged at for years. As it is, we have a silent epidemic on our hands, and it is ideal that women who are directly affected by these changes, know exactly what is going on and what to do.
Not too surprisingly, a survey showed that 42% of women feel their partner’s erectile dysfunction (ED) is their fault, and 19% feel it’s because their partners don’t find them attractive anymore, and that is enough reason to want to take a deeper look at finding out what’s going on and how to overcome it. Unfortunately, women just worry, as this same study found that women hardly do anything about their partner’s ED, apart from feel like it’s their fault.
Before “ED” became common parlance, “it” wasn’t much talked about or even understood, and it was referred to as impotence, a word any man wouldn’t want to be said in the same sentence as his name. The shame of it can literally kill a man.
So what is erectile dysfunction?
Erectile dysfunction is the failure to achieve erection about 20 percent of the time. True erectile dysfunction affects about 1 out of 10 men, and up to half of all men over 50 at some time during their lives.
There are two forms of ED: Primary and Secondary Erectile dysfunction.
For men with primary impotence, they never have sufficient erections for satisfactory intercourse.
Thankfully, this form of ED is quite rare, as it is often caused by extreme psychological conditions, such as intense fear of intimacy, extreme feelings of guilt and severe anxiety.
Secondary impotence, on the other hand, is defined as the loss of erectile function after a period of normal function. Men with secondary impotence are typically able to engage in intercourse about 25% of the time. This form of ED is more easily treatable than primary ED.
Moving on, these are some of the things women should know about erectile dysfunction and how to turn it around for their own good.
It will affect both of you:
Experts agree that erectile dysfunction affects both partners — and that the best way to deal with erectile dysfunction is to seek help together.
A study published in the International Journal of Impotence Research found that women often experience their own form of sexual dysfunction when their partner has ED, often due to a lack of intimacy, frustration, or an overall shortage of satisfaction.
That just highlights the fact that ED affects both partners, and that there is a clear need for the man to be honest, not only with his doctor but also with his partner.
Cardiovascular conditions can lead to ED:
Doctors have found that any condition that affects the heart, and it’s ability to pump blood, can lead to ED.
Cases of clogged arteries, high blood pressure or cholesterol can all affect blood flow and lead to ED. Infact, in up to 30% of men who see their doctors about ED, the condition is the first hint that they have cardiovascular disease.
Viagra is a safe drug, but there are so many counterfeit brands of Viagra out there
It is not surprising to find out that Viagra is “the most studied drug on the planet,” according to Irwin Goldstein, director and president of the San Diego-based Institute for Sexual Medicine and lead author in an early study of the drug, published in May 1998 in the New England Journal of Medicine.
However, its popularity also means there are spin-offs of the real deal, hence the need for women to ensure their partners buy only the real Viagra, and not counterfeits.
Getting healthy helps:
While getting a prescription from a doctor can help, making some lifestyle changes can help even more. Exercise, weight loss and a healthy diet can all help improve ED, however, bicycling shouldn’t be part of the routine, as the jury is still out over whether it can cause erectile dysfunction or not.
It is not your fault:
Women know how to blame themselves a lot, and erectile dysfunction in their spouse is not different. Many women, especially older women, may feel that they are part of the problem, and take it personally.
You are rarely the cause, so stop beating yourself up over it. In most instances, there is a physical or emotional reason for erectile dysfunction that often has nothing to do with you.
Just as it is easy for women to take their partner’s erectile dysfunction personal, it can also be easy to turn around and become judgemental.
The fact that your partner is willing to be open about erectile dysfunction and do something about it is the biggest part of the battle. Don’t make him regret it by trying to assign blame. For the sake of your love, send out only positive vibes.
Your sexual life is not over:
Just because your partner is suffering from ED doesn’t mean that your sex life is over. Seek out other ways of getting your intimacy in, look up techniques that you both enjoy and take the pressure off performance.
It is also important for you to share what you want in the bedroom, and don’t make him read your mind.
As it is often said, what you don’t know can hold you captive, but not anymore. At least, not where erectile dysfunction is concerned.
Knowledge is said to be power.
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