The Deal With C-Sections

Closeup of woman belly with a scar from a cesarean section

A few weeks ago, there was an online campaign by some women who believe that a woman that gives birth vaginally is superior to the one who gives birth via Caesarian Section (CS). I was appalled to read the campaign message which went somewhat like this “€œDo not compare yourself to a woman who went past the heights of pain to birth a child, you who just lie there and had your baby pulled out for you”€ (paraphrased). I was even more appalled that it was women leading this campaign, and being so insensitive. You know, men say we women are our own enemies? I couldn’€™t understand the rationale behind such a campaign. I couldn’€™t understand it because a CS is a major surgery and should not be referred to as ‘€œlying there’€. Most women who undergo CS take weeks to heal, and often suffer severe after-surgery pain. I was defending the women who were victimized by this campaign when a finger came pointing back at me.

You see, ever since I gave birth, I have been chanting that I would not undergo vaginal delivery again. DH is yet to buy the idea but I am mentally getting ready for an elective CS (whereby the pregnant woman opts to have a C-Section before she goes into labour, for non-medical reasons). I have about three or four reasons that I use for my pitch, but the highest ranking is that, I am not ready to go through such pain again! My childbirth experience was not funny because I was induced at 5cm and I can categorically say that I went to hell, purgatory, heaven, hell again, purgatory again and back to earth that day. No sireee, I would not undertake such a journey again…except God wills it sha. I kept on wondering how my Grandmother gave birth to eight children! Right there in the delivery room, I was begging them to wheel me to the theatre for a C-section but them no gree.

Back track to a few weeks earlier when I went in for my pelvic examination, and the doctor said my pelvis was border-line small. That meant, it was not large enough for them not to worry, but it was also not small enough for them to give a C-section verdict. “Doctor, borderline what?” I queried. The kind doctor explained again what he meant and told me, I might give birth vaginally or via a Caesarian Section, and they were going to prepare the theatre for me once I enter into labour. On the drive home, I called my Mother, and told her to book Mass oh! I didn’€™t want to give birth via CS. I have never undergone any surgery in my life, so my fear was legit. I prayed and confessed positively, and proclaimed and believed that I was going to give birth vaginally, and I did.

Since I gave birth, three of my friends have put to bed via C-Sections, for one reason or the other. Chidinma’€™s baby was too big, weighing a massive 4.8kg so she couldn’€™t take the risk, Tolani and Gena’s babies were both in breech positions, and the doctors’€™ efforts to turn the babies failed, so they had to go in for the surgery. For all three births, I was in the hospital before, during and after the surgery, and I came to the conclusion that the grass is pretty much the same on both sides. Both are painful…massively painful, the only difference is that, for one, you get the pain before the baby, and the other, you get the pain after having the baby. However, I am of the opinion that, if it’€™s a good hospital and the mother’€™s health is stable, a CS is the safest way to give birth. The rate of maternal and child morbidity in Africa is still high and that is probably because of our aversion to CS. You hardly see an African that opts for a C-Section; something must force us into the theatre. We believe that if we don’€™t push, we haven’€™t earned the trophy of motherhood.

But I beg to differ. First, birthing a child is a cumulation of several events. I do not think that a mother should be robbed of her crown because she went through surgery. Life grew in her, her uterus expanded to 50 times its normal size. She had many sleepless nights; turning and tossing as the little one played basketball inside her belly. She had to deal with swollen feet, backaches, sore legs and painful nipples. She even has to heal for about six to eight weeks and she is not allowed to hit the gym immediately; she must take things slow, unlike the one who gave birth vaginally who can start shedding weight almost instantly. She has a new baby (or babies) to attend to, and she still has to nurse herself as well, plus Darling Hubby that must not be neglected.

I am not saying everyone should opt for CS, but can we at least not treat it like its a sin? Do you know some women give birth via CS and hide that fact from people, just because they do not want to get mocked? There are also incidences when you hear someone say ‘€œso and so has put to bed’€ and just as the shouts of excitement and congratulations ring in the air, the messenger interjects “€œBut it was through CS oh”€ and then former well-wishers say “€œEiya, what happened? It is well, Maybe that’s how God wants it”€. People perish for lack of knowledge. Many stillbirths that arise from the baby suffocating during the long hours of labour would have been avoided if the baby was simply pulled out. Understand that, this ‘€œpulling out’€ thing favors the child, not the mother. Many babies get distressed during natural birth, but hardly so if it is C-Section. The mother, however, has a lot of pain to deal with, and would probably not be able to feel the initial joy of motherhood because of the severe pain she is in.

Bottomline – every mother deserves her trophy – CS or not!




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  1. Can’t believe people still reason like this in this age and time. Proudly delivered my 2 beautiful girls via cs. First was emergency and 2nd was elective. Been TTC for the third one and would gladly submit to a third C-section when God grants me the privilege.

  2. you rock jaree…After I labour for more dan 24hrs,I was later induced injected and all the rest,baby was not coming out coz he was so big I can’t birth him vaginally so the only option was Cs… So after all diz sum1 will now tell me she’s superior coz she birth vaginally,that sound so crazy indeed!!!If am to choose btw both will definitely go 4 Cs

  3. Women labor for hours and end up going thru CS dts double dose pain of before and after. Pushing,Pulling thank God if at the end of it all u can carry ur child in ur arms

  4. This baffles me greatly when i hear like Aha she just had a baby o….but again that sober/mocking tune of but its through CS sha like its a taboo(SMH)
    God help us.

  5. I’m surprised people still reason like this.little wonder the level of mother/child mortality rate is still high.CS saved my life and my baby’s life .he weighed 4.7 and even with that,i was ready to take my chances because I didn’t want to be operated on.i went into Labour for 5 days until I finally agreed to be taken to the the I know better and I’m opting for an elective CS next time.God help our society!

    • Wow! Thanks for sharing, Justy! C-sections are a necessity in a number of occasions. I hope we are brave enough, as a society, to stop castigating our women for it. I knew I would be having an elective c-section the minute I found out I was carrying twins. Add placenta previa to the mix, and I was even more sure. I don’t regret it either :yes:

  6. Did you just say 4.7kg??. And five days of labour pain, you take the cake my sister, @Justy Akinbami. C–sections are life savers, but some people still feel its the easy way out. Indeed God help us all.

  7. Hello Nicole or Admin. pls my registration has not worked. this is my third attempt since I started reading articles here. I suggest the process should be effectively looked into so as not to discourage prospective members. I know I hv been discouraged by this. thnks

  8. my dear,even if its a lazy or easier way out, all of us not must not suffer, imagine laboring for 24hrss? what kind of play is that, and there is an easier way out, why wont I take it. my dear what is paramount to me , is that both mother and child come out alive, it will be terrible to go through the hurdles of 9months , only to lose the child, or worst your life, just becos we were playing to the gallery.

    • Elsie,I couldn’t help but clap my hands, as I read your comment. I couldn’t have put it better. People just like to take a small issue and blow it up into gigantic proportions, leaving the things that are most important; a healthy mom and baby. Shikena.

  9. I’m proudly wearing my scar!
    People,especially women needs a change of mindset…i was a victim of PPD due to this same careless comments!Worse off,it came from my mother inlaw who flew in from Nigeria for Omugwo..and she didn’t even wait to get home before passing such comment as ‘You ate too much o,baby is too big,how could he have come out through VG”,this caused a huge fight between myself,her and my hubby,and of course she later denied ever making such comments,i was depressed for the first 1 month,but thankfully i was able to pull myself out and i’m much better now.
    People just need to understand that CS most times saves lives.I was induced at 39wks due to HBP and baby didn’t quit cope well with pitocin,hence an emergency CS was required.
    And my friend on the other hand labored for over 24hrs,got fully dilated,but her pevics was too small for baby to pass through..If you ask me,i felt no pains before or even after surgery,and my recovery was super fast (All Glory to God).
    CS for me o,any day any time…If it is medically necessary.


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