Tayo’s Infertility Diary 30: Lucky Girl!


June 22nd, 2008

It was a wonderful and beautiful holiday, but I’m so glad to be home!

It took everything in me not to tell Javier about the current situation between Natalia and Keith, but I had to not only remember my promise, but I also decided to share her faith that their issue will soon be resolved.

Except I’m not as confident about that as I probably should be. When a man tells you he has fallen out of love with you, I really don’t know where you can go from there.

It just reminded me to be grateful for what I have! Yes, I might be struggling with fertility right now, but at least I am in a loving and committed relationship!

During our flight back to London, Javier actually asked where I am in my cycle, and when I will start using the CBFM! I was so touched! He also started talking about names for a baby girl, which made me even more sentimental, because I know he has always said he’d like a boy. I then went on to tell him the sex plan for this cycle, which is that it will be up to him when we use toys, foreplay, time of day, etc., and he seemed quite pleased with this idea. Hmmm, I hope I haven’t signed myself up for one-chance oh! LOL!

Anyway, AF is almost over. And our new car should arrive before the end of the week, so that’s something else to look forward to.

As for my Mom…she has decided to spend a few days with her new best friend, Javier’s Mom. Apart from the fact that I love it that my Mom and Mother-in-law are so close, I could do with a few days to myself, before she comes to spend the remainder of her trip with us. She is trying to get me to go back to Nigeria with her. Her reason being that she needs help planning my brother Fisayo’s 40th birthday thanksgiving. Even though the plan is for us to celebrate in Vegas, my Mother (with the happy connivance of Fisayo’s Mother-in-law, another Naija party woman) are planning a full-on owambe in their Atlanta base.

Ah, wahala go dey this summer oh!

About the trip to Nigeria, I’m actually kind of tempted. I haven’t been home in a while, and it wouldn’t be bad catching up with friends and family. And this one that I’m as freeeeeeeee as a bird for the rest of the summer (tomorrow is my last day at work), why the heck not?

We’ll see!


June 23rd, 2008

I can’t begin to describe the euphoric feeling clearing my desk at work today! I finally will be able to leave all this negative energy behind me! Gosh, has this been a long time coming or what?!

And to make matters even more of a giggle, my boss called me into his office and actually offered me more money to stay!!! So they liked me that much, ehn?! So I was such a treasured employee, abi?!! Nonsense! It was with much joy in my heart that I turned down their ‘kind’ offer.

Now, I’m freeeeee to enjoy my summer! Whoop whoop!


June 25th, 2008

CD 7

Mom has decided to stay with her ‘best friend’ till the weekend, so it has given me even more time to just unwind, and enjoy my life. Lol!

Last night, I told Javier that I am no longer on my period, and he proceeded to run me a bath, and then announced his plan for this cycle! According to him, he is going to get me all ‘warmed up’ every time! No BD’ing just to try for a baby. It will be all for enjoyment, from now on! We started last night, and it was a.m.a.z.i.n.g!!!

Less stress, more PMA and more fun!

Gosh, I’m such a lucky lucky girl!


June 26th, 2008

CD 8

I woke up, basking in the after-glow from last night. Before our trip to Italy, Javier and I had subconsciously slipped into mechanical sex territory. Somehow, we had lost our spark. But in these last few days, oh my days, it has returned with a passion! Us enjoying each other, just because! The result is that I have been less stressed and anxious, and just taking things one day at a time.

I was enjoying a late breakfast on the patio when my phone rang. I didn’t recognize the number, and I briefly debated ignoring the call. I really didn’t want my blissful morning disrupted by anything unimportant.

Well, it wasn’t unimportant.

“Hi Tayo” came the deep baritone voice “This is Ugo”

It took my brain to connect exactly who Ugo was, and when it did, I quickly sat up in my chair. Darn it! I had forgotten to even save his number, talk less of call him as I’d promised.

“I’m so sorry, Ugo” I started apologizing lamely “I’ve been meaning to call you…”

“No need to apologise, Tayo. I know how this town can be.” I could hear the smile in his voice, so I relaxed a bit. “Have you…have you heard from Solape?” he asked “I still can’t reach her. Her phone is still switched off, and she isn’t replying my e-mails.”

I went on to tell him what I had heard from my Mom…how she is still on house arrest at home, and how her sister had unsuccessfully tried to bring her back to the UK.

“I thought as much. And that’s one of the reasons I’ve called.” he said “I’ve decided to go to Nigeria…to get her myself.”


“I’ve had enough time to think about things.” he continued “Not only is she carrying my child, I love her, and I want to be with her. I don’t care about her past, or her previous indiscretions. I want her to be my wife, and I’m going along with my family to ask for her hand in marriage!”

My mouth dropped to the floor.

Ah! This poor boy does not know the nature of beast he is trying to fight oh! Solape’s mother will eat him alive!



For the Newbies

AF = Aunt Flo (Your period)

BD = Baby Dance (Have sex)

CBFM = Clear Blue Fertility Monitor

CD = Cycle Day


Catch up on Tayo’s Story here:

  1. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 1: The Beginning
  2. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 2: Little Drops…Big Drops 
  3. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 3: Time Keeper
  4. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 4: Don’t Faint…Don’t Look
  5. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 5: The Afterglow
  6. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 6: Irony
  7. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 7: Adulterer
  8. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 8: Catch 22
  9. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 9: Sister, Sister
  10. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 10: Goose Bumps 
  11. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 11: Gold Digger
  12. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 12: Peak
  13. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 13: Road Trip
  14. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 14: Emotional
  15. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 15: Awful Mess
  16. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 16: Pink Dresses
  17. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 17: My Love
  18. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 18: Summer
  19. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 19: Mindset
  20. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 20: High Street
  21. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 21: Bored, Fat, Sad
  22. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 22: Lessons Learnt
  23. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 23: The Dress versus the Tee-Shirt
  24. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 24: The Hen Night
  25. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 25: Minding my business
  26. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 26: Notice!
  27. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 27: Spotting & Shopping
  28. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 28: Messing About
  29. Tayo’s Infertility Diary 29: Wedding in Tuscany




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