Mrs Darl’s story was such an encouragement, that it motivated me to get other people to share theirs as well. Here is Mrs. G’s story:
I never thought I would have a problem getting pregnant. I had 2 unplanned pregnancies in University, even though I was on the pill both times. I terminated the first, but had my son at the age of 20. I broke up with my boyfriend before our son turned 1, and didn’t date anyone for the next 6 years. I was totally celibate, so there was no need for contraceptives for me.
When I met my husband, we fell in love very quickly, were engaged about 6 months after we started dating, and married 4 months after that. He accepted my son as his own, and I felt exceptionally blessed. He had a daughter from a previous relationship and, even though she lived with her mother, we were a nice blended family.
A year into our marriage, I started wondering what the problem could be, as me, oh fertile me, hadn’t gotten pregnant even once, after a whole year of unprotected sex. I finally went to see my Doctor when we hit the 18-month mark. All she basically said was that as I had a child, and he had a child, there was clearly nothing wrong with either of us, and told me to go home and keep trying. Even when I told her that it had been discovered when I was pregnant with my son that I had multiple ovarian cysts, she told me not to worry about it.
Meanwhile, I was getting heavier and heavier, despite being active and eating healthily. I also noticed my previously regular ovulation pains were now happening every 3 or 4 months. Soon, my periods also entered a 3-month pattern, with varying degrees of irregularity. All the while, my doctor kept telling me not to worry.
After 2 years, my husband decided it was time to see another doctor, so we started asking around for referrals for one. We eventually found a fantastic one, and immediately scheduled an appointment. I was starting to get frustrated, as I could see the gap between our children getting wider everyday.
So, we started seeing this awesome doctor, who diagnosed me with PCOS. It’s funny how that was a relief to me, as it meant I had finally had an explanation to why I was feeling so weird. He placed me on metformin (a drug used to treat type-2 diabetes, but which also helps manage PCOS symptoms), as well as clomid (a drug used to induce ovulation). We did that for 5 cycles, but I all I got was a huge cyst on one ovary, I didn’t get pregnant once. Our doctor then advised us to take a break from the medication, to allow my body rest.
I was devastated, and desperately needed time to clear my head from TTC. Christmas soon came, and my husband took me away to Ghana for a holiday. We were in a gorgeous beach resort and spent a blissful week there. We returned home on New Year’s Eve, and proceeded to continue living our lives. We had discussed the possibility of going for IVF later in the year. It was something we could have done in a heartbeat, if we could afford it. Unfortunately, it was going to be a financial stretch for us. But we were still hopeful.
A month after our return, I had the most awful lower back pain you could imagine! I found myself swallowing painkillers like they were sweets. But they gave me little or no relief, instead the pain just got worse. I finally decided to see a doctor. I chose to see a regular GP, because I didn’t think the issue was enough to warrant me paying my Ob/Gyn’s heavy consultation fees. I was a little discouraged that it was a very junior doctor who attended to me, but decided to trust him anyway. When he asked me if I could be pregnant, I was so irritated, thinking that the doctor had merely asked the most obvious question for a woman my age. In the end, he sent me off with even more painkillers.
Another 2 weeks passed and, in addition to the back pain, I had become extremely lethargic. When a colleague joked that I could be pregnant, I brushed it off, but not before I started to wonder myself. I realized that my period, which had become more regular thanks to my medication, had been missing for a good number of weeks.
So, I bought some digital pregnancy tests on my way home from work that evening. I took one almost as soon as I got home, and it came up straight away with “Pregnant 3+”.
I was totally shocked, my husband even more so! We were finally pregnant. The pregnancy was as smooth and hitch free as you can imagine, and our little princess was born perfect in October 2008.
When our daughter was 5 months old, we managed to have sex once!! It was the one and only time we did it since her birth. I took a pregnancy test 8 weeks later and found out I was pregnant! My husband and I couldn’t believe it, it was a miracle! Our second daughter was born November 2009.
When our second daughter turned 1, I came off the pill and we fell pregnant straight away! Unfortunately we lost the baby at 6 weeks. On 1st of April 2010, we found out that I was pregnant again. Sadly, we lost that baby too on May 15th at 11 weeks. Then we found out we were pregnant on August 4th 2010. I was already 6 weeks when I found out! Our son was born at the end of February 2011. We now have a healthy brood of 5 kids, including our other children, and a perfect family.
After 3 years of infertility, we managed to get pregnant 5 times over a 3-year period! I just wanted to share so people know it can be done with a little kick-start.
No matter how many times I hear her story, it still gives me goose bumps! It really doesn’t matter how you start, but how you finish!
Have a great week, folks! Baby dust to all!
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