TTC Support Thread
September 7, 2015 at 11:27 am #5139
Hey Ladies, goodmorning Y’all .
For me this month,i am going on a break dont know how am going to do it but i will try and ignore those “fertile days shit”I dont know,but this month like never before i was hopeful. I even missed my period like it was a day late(guess my mind contributed to my body reacting to the lateness)i was hopeful,got a test strip,had the test done on Saturday early morning it was a BFN after which i saw the WITCH i cried,my heart beat was racing badly and all that. So i have decided not to try this month(despite the fact that i know the fertile days already)I dont want to develop hypertension at this age…NO WAY.
Congratulations @myde and Josie i wish to be in your shoes soonest when God permits.
@nicole I wish your Mom,quick recovery soonest by God’s grace.
As for other Ladies,i hope you all had a wonderful saturday last weekend,sorry i missed out i wasnt in a good mood i was just mad at myself,but i feel better today.I hope we do it again sometime soon by God’s grace.
Y’all have a blessed week. xoxoSeptember 7, 2015 at 1:05 pm #5160
Hey Grace swty, There are days like that, isn’t called a witch for nothing. Don’t be too hard on yourself hun. I think a break as you said, is in order, just to get your joy back…we gat to live our lives in spite of TTC are @iyawodiipoSeptember 7, 2015 at 1:35 pm #5166September 8, 2015 at 9:38 am #5212
Just for you Grace@iyawodiipo. You will be fine eventually. Take the break,if it helps you makes sense of the whole TTC journey and rest to bounce back reinvigorated.September 8, 2015 at 11:32 am #5221
Awww,thanks so much for this. I needed it. God bless you real good. @oluwakemi xoxoSeptember 8, 2015 at 11:34 am #5222
I am very grateful. This put a big smile on my face. So very thoughtful of you.September 9, 2015 at 8:30 am #5255September 9, 2015 at 10:56 am #5256
isiParticipantSeptember 9, 2015 at 11:27 am #5257September 15, 2015 at 9:23 am #5472
Thank you everyone, for all your love and support when I was away! I truly appreciate it
I think I might have lost track of our cycle days :dohh:. So, please let me know when your current cycles started, so I can update our ticker database.September 16, 2015 at 10:41 am #5526
Our dear @naaadzane, we’re praying along with you, and hope that you feel better soon, and that the bleeding stops quickly. Sending you lots of hugsSeptember 21, 2015 at 10:20 am #5863
Good morning, lovely ladies!
I hope everyone had a great weekend
Yvonne (@naaadzane), how are you hun? Did you get to see the new doctor as planned? Has the spotting stopped, and has the main period started? You know we’re thinking of you always!!!
Nadia (@nadia), so glad you’ve decided not to take a break after all :yahoo:. We’ll be cheering you on sweetie
Ayo (@mabel) sweetie….counting down now
Oluchi (@oluchi) hun. Long time no hear. Hope you’re doing well hun!
lovingmythreeangels (@kenechukwu), how are you dear? I hope the bad cramps are well behind you now :hugs:. Good luck this cycle hun!
Grace (@iyawodiipo), even though you are not monitoring the cycle, we’ll be monitoring it for you, and cheering you on :hugs:. Your is on its way hun!
Abedemi (@sherry) hun! How are you doing today? Hope you had a great weekend
Chika dear (@chiko), welcome to our group :friends:. We’ll be here to cheer you on as you continue to try after the miscarriage. May you be blessed with your rainbow baby very very soon :heart:. Did you see the doctor recommendations I sent you?
Esther hun (@mumsoon), we’re so glad to have you in our group hun :hugs:. I just sent you some info about some herbal remedies that could help. We are also here to join you in prayers, to cancel any negative forces hun. It is well with you
OB dear (@ob), welcome to the family :friends:. We’re looking forward to counting down with you. Your is around the corner, in JESUS’ name!!!
Welcome also to Nanu (@nanu) and Olori (@olori), we’re glad to have you hereSeptember 21, 2015 at 10:47 am #5874
I got the names of the doctors you recommended, would be going to check them later this week. Amen to your prayer for my rainbow baby, I hope it happens soon. I prayer for women ttc everyday cos now I actually know what it’s like. Our blessings will come.September 21, 2015 at 10:52 am #5876
AMEN, Chika (@chiko) :hugs:.
Omni Medical in Onikan is also okay, and within a reasonable price range, so that could also be another optionSeptember 23, 2015 at 10:40 am #6004
6 Ways to Deal with a Negative Pregnancy Test (When You Wanted a Positive)
After three years, multiple IVF cycles, two devastating miscarriages, and countless setbacks … Aela’s road to motherhood has been anything but easy. Her latest chapter in her journey below:
I honestly don’t know how many negative pregnancy tests I’ve had over the past three and a half years. I imagine I could figure it out if I dug deep enough, but who wants to go there? I’ve already dealt with the disappointment that comes with each of those negatives so there’s no need to revisit it.
It was just last week that I got my latest “nope.” The two-week wait was as awful as they always are, but by the end of it, I suspected I wasn’t pregnant even before I took the blood test. I was right.
Dealing with infertility and multiple pregnancy losses can and will wear you down, as anyone who has experienced this can attest. And the longer you’re in it, the longer you’re part of this cruel game, the more you learn how to handle the ups and downs of it all.
Getting a negative pregnancy test is definitely a down, but there are ways I’ve managed to cope with the disappointment over the years:
1. Plan a date for your test day
If you end up getting a BFP (what women trying to conceive call a “big fat positive”), you’ll be celebrating. But if you get that unwanted negative, you’ll already have something fun planned with your spouse, partner, or BFF if you’re going this alone. It can be something as simple as a neighborhood walk with your dog, or a nice dinner. Use the date to softly mourn the negative, but to also refocus your love and energy on the whys of your journey. Remind yourself why you want to become a mother. Focus on the good in you and refuse to be defeated.
2. Eat a pint of ice cream
Seriously. Do it. I don’t suggest you deal with your feelings by drowning your sorrows in Ben and Jerry’s, but there are times when it’s appropriate. This is definitely one of those times. You’ve likely spent the two-week wait and the time leading up to your pregnancy attempt doing everything by the books and eating all sorts of good and healthy fertility food. Allow yourself a day or night of gluttony — just be sure not to make it a habit.
We’re going camping soon, and we’ll unplug 100%. As much as I love reading others’ stories and as much as I appreciate you reading mine, it’s important to stay away from the Internet at times, especially when you’re feeling your most vulnerable and questioning your worth (something I think we can all admit we do when dealing with failed attempt after failed attempt). That first day of your negative test, it’s 100% guaranteed that someone in your social media feeds will either a.) announce their pregnancy or b.) announce the birth of their baby. You don’t need to see that right away. Give yourself some time unplugged and recharge YOU.
4. Consider taking a break from trying
About a year ago, I quit this journey. I was done trying. There was only so much I could take, and I had it. I knew I’d begin again when I rebuilt my self worth and regained my strength of character. This journey depletes both of those in record time. It took me a few months, but I eventually hopped back in the saddle, with a renewed sense of hope. I was refreshed. Taking a pause on this journey is a hard decision to make — we all wanted babies like yesterday, and none of us is getting any younger — but sometimes you need to simply get back to yourself before moving onward.
5. Binge watch anything
Zone out. Don’t face that negative today. It will still be there tomorrow. If it’s just too much to handle, don’t. At least not today. Go on a mini getaway with Netflix (perhaps with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s, too?), and get up tomorrow — or the next day — and deal with your shit then. It’s okay to let yourself wallow for a day or two. Negative pregnancy tests are heartbreaking. It’s totally okay to be bummed and sad and disappointed and self-pitying. This sucks! But don’t let it last longer than your binge-watch session. Feel it and move on.
6. Write it out
I suggest this survival tactic when dealing with all of life’s ups and downs, but especially when being enslaved to infertility and pregnancy loss. You don’t necessarily have to share your words with anyone (though you could). Just be sure to get them out of you. Forget grammar, rules, or style. Just write. Put it all out there and be done with it. I promise, you will feel lighter. With the heaviness of this journey, who couldn’t use some weight lifted?
Culled from http://www.babble.com/
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