Marriage Support

Happy New Month!!!

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  • #27982

    Oluwakemi
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    Hmmm, funky grandmas  @bosa. It still doesn’t stop anything :blush:

    #28917

    Oluwakemi
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    Honestly, what I wanted to do was just say hi but then I got a brainwave, and here we are. :hi:   :hi: mamas and papas.

    You might have wondered “What’s the secret to making a marriage successful?” Below are some answers from those who are still in the business, those, who have left but wished, they hadn’t, because they know better. :wedding:   :wedding:

    • Whatever bad stuff happens, remember this, too, will pass.
    • Affection breeds more affection. Touch each other, kiss each other good morning, and have plenty of sex (even when you’re old!). It’s too easy to get out of the habit, which makes you feel distant. Intimacy and physical affection really help keep you connected.
    • Children can be stressful, but they, too, will grow up.
    • Let the little things go and think big picture. Since you’re in it for the long haul, are you really going to care who did or didn’t run the dishwasher when you look back in 10 years? Remind yourself that your relationship is much, much bigger than any one minor incident.
    • Fill the fridge with his favorites — it’s easy to do, so just do it.
    • Take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you energy — being successful as a couple will only work if each of you is strong and fulfilled as an individual.
    • Avoid giving the silent treatment. Talk about things that bother you as soon as possible; don’t let your emotions build up, because you’ll likely explode.
    • Let go of hurts more easily, and try not to dwell on things that annoy you.

     

    cc: @temilola @mzm4 @bsalami @joesmal1 @emeraldmoni30 @evee @mummybryan @missfafa @teejay@ldike @bosa@pearl @akpo @iyawodiipo @wemi @yetundeaare @chixavier @fruitful @edojaprecious @nicole @yinca @mrssho @muanya@olugod @oyinforever  @mstee @fruitfuldamsel  @wemi @chixavier @fruitful @nwanneka @treasure @evelyno2 @somia

    #28918

    Oluwakemi
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    Image result for hello animated gif

    Honestly, what I wanted to do was just say hi but then I got a brainwave, and here we are. :hi:   :hi: mamas and papas.

    You might have wondered “What’s the secret to making a marriage successful?” Below are some answers from those who are still in the business, those, who have left but wished, they hadn’t, because they know better. :wedding:   :wedding:

    • Whatever bad stuff happens, remember this, too, will pass.
    • Affection breeds more affection. Touch each other, kiss each other good morning, and have plenty of sex (even when you’re old!). It’s too easy to get out of the habit, which makes you feel distant. Intimacy and physical affection really help keep you connected.
    • Children can be stressful, but they, too, will grow up.
    • Let the little things go and think big picture. Since you’re in it for the long haul, are you really going to care who did or didn’t run the dishwasher when you look back in 10 years? Remind yourself that your relationship is much, much bigger than any one minor incident.
    • Fill the fridge with his favorites — it’s easy to do, so just do it.
    • Take time for yourself to do what you love, what makes you happy and gives you energy — being successful as a couple will only work if each of you is strong and fulfilled as an individual.
    • Avoid giving the silent treatment. Talk about things that bother you as soon as possible; don’t let your emotions build up, because you’ll likely explode.
    • Let go of hurts more easily, and try not to dwell on things that annoy you.

     

    cc: @temilola @mzm4 @bsalami @joesmal1 @emeraldmoni30 @evee @mummybryan @missfafa @teejay@ldike @bosa@pearl @akpo @iyawodiipo @wemi @yetundeaare @chixavier @fruitful @edojaprecious @nicole @yinca @mrssho @muanya@olugod @oyinforever  @mstee @fruitfuldamsel  @wemi @chixavier @fruitful @nwanneka @treasure @evelyno2 @somia

    #29727

    linda
    Participant

    thanks foe this @oluwakemine

    #29729

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    :yahoo: :yahoo:   :yahoo:  Hey mama Linda @ldike. Long time no see. How’s our baby doing? Missed you no be small.

    Nicole @nicole,see who branched here today oh?

    #29735

    linda
    Participant

    lol ! i have missed you ladies more @nicole @oluwakemine even though you guys didn’t look for me sha  :headspin:

    #29739

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    Sorry about that but you were never far from our thoughts Linda @ldike :heart:   :heart:

    #29746

    Nicole
    Keymaster

    My darling @ldike  :heart:   :heart:   :heart:

    I was bidding my time, hun. I figured my darling Nicole was taking your time. But trust me, na your house you for see me   :haha:

    How have you been, sweets?

    #29751

    linda
    Participant

    missed you ladies @oluwakemine @nicole :hug:   :hug: hubby was even after everyone here the other day.

    I am good o, hats of to you super women, how you guys juggle every is amazing!

    #29754

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    Aww, so sweet of your hubby to ask o. Hats off to you too for doing it all and still keeping it all together Linda @ldike :heart:

    #32560

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    Happy birthday Nicole @nicole. Here’s :drunk: :drunk: to being older and wiser than you once were, and giving all of the best advice to young’uns who won’t listen. :haha: :haha: Happy 40th Birthday!

    cc: @temilola @mzm4 @bsalami @joesmal1 @emeraldmoni30 @evee @mummybryan @missfafa @teejay@ldike@bosa@pearl @akpo @iyawodiipo @wemi @yetundeaare @chixavier @fruitful @edojaprecious @nicole @yinca @mrssho@muanya@olugod @oyinforever  @mstee @fruitfuldamsel  @wemi @chixavier @fruitful @nwanneka @treasure @evelyno2@somia @teminificient @oluwata-2

    #45464

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    Now, I can share the burden that I have been carrying around since morning, thanks to internet challenges. So, I saw this quote very early this morning, whilst, I was looking for some images and I just knew I had to share it, so I saved it. It touched a nerve. B-)

    In my almost ten years of being married, I have come to realise that expectations can lead to disappointments and I have been disappointed quite a number of times by my DH, not because he wanted to but because he just couldn’t help it or didn’t want to etc.

    And because  he “failed” me, I go into my silent mode, (I have a degree in silent treatment, may God save my soul :angel: :angel:). In my silent mode,  I’m not communicating or looking to make him understand why I feel disappointed. I’d just want him to magically feel the emotions, I was feeling.

    Nowadays, I try to remind myself not to have any expectations where my DH is concerned, (mehn, it is very hard, I will not lie), not because I don’t love him or want some bragging rights or even to weaken his manhood by acting independent woman, (Heaven knows I’m not, I have four children, I can’t do it alone), it is simply because I know, he is a man and he can’t meet all my expectations, so, I go to the one who can, God.

    And the expectations, ( :yes: :yes: , I still have expectations) my DH might be finding difficult to meet or is reluctant to meet, I ask God to help him to help me. :haha:   :haha:

    I pray that we will always learn to dump our expectations at the Lord’s feet and not let it interfere with our time with our DHs. :wedding:   :wedding:

    cc: @hotmaama @nicole @pearl @bosa @bibi @ldike @kiismum @ilobe@mayokun @bsquared @smiley

    #45466

    Nicole
    Keymaster

    I love this, @oluwakemine

    #45474

    Oluwakemi
    Participant

    It’s quite interesting Nicole @nicole :heart:   :heart:

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