Dealing with a miscarriage is never an easy thing; the emotional turmoil, the physical pain, the knowledge that something has gone missing is not something one can push to the background or wish away.
All sorts of thoughts come; from self-blame to blaming others, the unending wonder if, perhaps, you could have done something differently.
And then comes the wait for the first period after miscarriage. For some, it’s a long wait, for others, it is quite fast that they are left wondering if it was their period or more bleeding from the miscarriage.
Anwuli had a miscarriage when she was 9 weeks pregnant. Barely recovered from the devastation of losing her first pregnancy, she asked her doctor when she could start trying for another baby. She was told to wait for her first period, which the doctor predicted should show up some four or five weeks from that time.
So, Anwuli waited for Aunty Flo to show up. She got an app to track her cycle from the date of the miscarriage to the date the witch was supposed to come. She waited patiently in the first half and then became frantic in the second half. She was on panty watch for most of it and then, Madam Flo did not show up. She felt frustrated by the whole waiting business. It was like her chance at baby was slipping away.
This thought I found disconcerting, but I have come to realise with TTC, some thoughts make the journey a lot easier, even if they might not be real or true. We just want to make them real, because the alternative doesn’t bear thinking.
For Anwuli, the thought of Aunty Flo showing was hope and the signal that she could start trying for her rainbow baby.
Aunty Flo did not come four weeks later, as her doctor projected, but rather six weeks later, when she was about running some tests to find out what might be wrong and even fearing that her body was damaged in some ways by the miscarriage.
With the arrival of her period, she went into full TTC mode, popping the folic acid, eating a lot of more healthily and she even started the BD, even though it was quite painful at first but her determination to have a baby was enough to make her turn to her husband, night after night.
She was disappointed when she didn’t get a positive pregnancy test when it was time to test, but the force behind her determination to get a baby was too much, it couldn’t be quenched. There was no denying it, so three months after her miscarriage, when her period had returned to normal and her cycle length was back to its usual 29 days, she got a BFP, and then struggle began.
She worried about the pregnancy ending in loss on one hand, and on the other hand, she believed, she was going to carry this baby. It was a struggle but she won in the end, as she indeed carried that baby, whom she named and personally calls Gold, regardless of the name every other person calls her.
Periods after a miscarriage aren’t the same for everyone. Some women experience no change when they have their first period following a miscarriage. For others, it can be quite heavy. What you should bear in mind is that your first period can be quite different from your regular period, so do not worry if you notice something different. Still, it is a good idea to go see your doctor if your period is highly abnormal with a substantially changed pattern.
Keep in mind that there is no “normal” for your first period after miscarriage. It can be:
- Very light and no more than spotting or very heavy
- Terribly crampy or not that uncomfortable
- Heavy in the beginning and drop off to spotting in no time
- Light spotting for a few days, stop and then start again with heavy bleeding
Some women even experience bleeding for several days or weeks. The bleeding can be light or heavy. If it stops after a few days and does not return after 20 days, know that you have just had your first period after miscarriage. If you generally have lighter periods, your first period following miscarriage may be quite heavy. In some cases, you may notice blood clots with bleeding.
Below are things you should know about periods before miscarriage and they include:
No Period after a Miscarriage is Normal
So, it’s been about a month since your miscarriage, but you have yet to get your period. In most cases, according to doctors, it should be enough to cause alarm.
Usually, after a miscarriage, the body needs time to heal. It needs time to get the pregnancy hormone, hCG, to clear out of your system and for the other hormones to return to their pre-pregnancy state. Once your hCG levels return to zero, your first period should begin approximately four weeks later. However, some women may not get their first period after a miscarriage until seven weeks later.
A Second Round of Bleeding is Also Normal
Although this isn’t common to all women, some women have been known to stop bleeding not long after experiencing a miscarriage, and then have heavy bleeding one to two weeks later.
Often times, this can easily be mistaken for a second period after miscarriage, but this is likely not the case unless at least 20 days have passed.
This second round of bleeding can be put down to the fact that the body is trying to expel a portion of the placenta that remained in the uterus after the initial miscarriage.
Irregular periods after a miscarriage may be a sign of hormone issues
It may take some time for your period to return to normal, but if you’re experiencing irregular periods after a miscarriage, it may be time to see the doctor.
An irregular cycle is typically an indication that your hormones are out of balance, and it is taking your body longer to heal after the miscarriage, or there may be an underlying medical issue.
Whatever might be the case, the need to seek medical attention as soon as possible cannot be overemphasised.
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