Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 94: People Watching!

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May 8th, 2013

I can’t believe it’s only Wednesday! Surely it should be Friday, at the very very least!

Alas, it isn’t…and my week continues it’s slow paced movement. I am really, truly, and honestly considering starting my leave early. But now that I know that my job will be waiting for me after I have the baby, I might as well conserve as much leave time as possible. It won’t do me any good to have to resume work when my baby is only a few weeks old.

Because I was so bored, and couldn’t manage to ginger my brain to get any work done, I chose to go to the canteen at the very start of our lunch hour; 12.30pm. My intention? T0 feed my eyes, as well as my stomach. Ebika and I used to do this in the early days, but when TTC, and then this pregnancy, distracted me, I stopped paying attention to the people around me…and if they were anything like they were 3, 4 years ago…they were very colourful indeed!

And so I made myself comfortable with a pineapple and mango smoothie, my electronic devices on hand, and proceeded to people watch!

As my colleagues flocked in and out of the canteen, I marveled at the number of pregnant women there are in the organization. I honestly haven’t paid this much mind. I counted at least 12 women, with very visible bumps. Amazing!

There were a few though, whom I had to squint to confirm if it was a bump they carried, or just a bit too much stomach fat. Whilst there were a good number whom I saw need to hit the gym quickly, one of my former Supervisors made me ponder over hers a bit longer. From an angle, it looked like she was carrying excess weight in her midriff, or maybe it was that her dress was too tight. But then, when she started nagging the Canteen staff about the quantity of oil in her stew, and requesting for extra pepper, I concluded that she definitely has a passenger on board. But the one that gave me the most joy was one of our Senior Managers, a woman in her early 40s, whom I know has been married for at least 10 years. I almost burst into happy tears, seeing her tiny baby bump perched on her equally tiny frame…further confirmation of God’s mercy.

And then there were the men. Before I got married, I got a LOT of attention from my male colleagues. It’s not that I’m the most beautiful woman in the land, but for some reason, men have always been attracted to me, as far back as when I was in high school even. But after I’d married, of course, most of them respected that, and we’d reverted to being friendly colleagues. Most of them. Some of them though, one senior colleague in particular, chose to continue toasting and flirting with a married woman. Even now that I’m pregnant, he still flirts. As he walked into the canteen, we made eye contact, and he winked at me. Me, with my stomach so big, it’s almost toppling me over! Freak!

And then I spotted the couple that had been all the rave, when I joined the company…Lolu and Eyitemi. They were hired about the same time as each other, and had started dating pretty much right away. At the time I was employed, they’d been on for about 6 years. It had been the foregone conclusion that marriage was the next step for the couple.

Eyitemi had even started asking around for advice about what to do after they were married, which of them would have to resign, and what other employment options there would be if she was the one to leave. Well, she shouldn’t have bothered. In the twinkle of an eye, Lolu had broken up with her, and six short months later, was engaged to someone else. Now, 5 years later, Lolu is a family man, whilst Eyitemi remains single…at the age of 39. Over the years, I have noticed her transform from being bubbly and cheerful, to a quiet and reserved version of her old self. She was already seated in the canteen, having her lunch, when Lolu walked in. I watched keenly, to observe how they would react to each other. But they didn’t pay each other any attention. They didn’t even say hello. In fact, a stranger would never believe the two of them had once been friends,let alone inches close to being life partners. Lolu got his meal, and joined a table with some other guys, very oblivious to Eyitemi. And she didn’t look up from her meal either…or so I thought. Towards the end of her meal, I saw her cast a quick glance Lolu’s way. It was so quick, that one could have missed it if one wasn’t watching. But I was watching…and I saw it…and I came to the realisation that she still carries a torch for the former love of her life. So sad!

Looking around, I saw Dunni walk into the room…and I just had to smile. Dunni, Dunni! She’d joined the company about 2 years after me, and it felt like University days all over again. You know how it is, after the JAMBITE rush, and you now become a ‘Stalelite’…meaning there is now fresher meat out there! All the men in the company, single and married, old and young, GMs and Corpers, almost lost their damned minds over the gorgeous Dunni. We didn’t hear word again, that time. Everywhere you turned, it was ‘Dunni! Dunni!! Dunni!!!’.

It was inevitable for even the women to start beefing her. And did she revel in the attention or what! Everytime one saw her, she would be giggling in a corner with some guy or the other. Alas, she was also a bit too generous with her…erm…‘goods’, and before long, almost all the men had eaten from her cookie pot. Add that to the fact that she started putting on an inexplicable amount of weight (some said they were a result of all the contraception she was on), and soon, she became yesterday’s newspaper. The men had tired of her, and her reputation was so bad, the women wanted nothing to do with her. Her saving grace was the fact that she was, and still is, extremely good at her job, so even though she has been climbing the corporate ladder, she has become something of a pariah. Watching her eat alone, I felt sorry for her. Nobody deserved to be treated like that, no matter what her past was.

Hearing loud giggles from the other end of the room, I saw a group of young girls, probably Interns or Youth Corpers…and I smiled. I remembered when I’d been just like them. Big hair, loud makeup, inappropriately high heels, elaborate jewelry. I couldn’t help but laugh. They never halla! By the time work life deals with them, nobody will tell them to put on a pair of more sensible shoes, and get serious. I saw them pointing in people’s directions, and giggling, obviously people watching like me. And it made me miss Ebika even more.

Rising to my feet, I walked over to Dunni’s table. “Hi Dunni. Can I join you?”

Her eyes widened with surprise, before she smiled and nodded emphatically, obviously glad to have some company. So, I placed my order, and proceeded to chat with this woman, who has been my colleague for about 4 years, but whom I knew nothing about, except her sexual promiscuity. And I was pleasantly surprised to realize that she has an incredible sense of humour.

As we chatted and laughed, I saw people cast curious glances our direction, but neither of us was bothered. She was obviously glad to finally have someone to talk to, and I was glad to have made a possible friend.

Not a bad day overall!

 

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Catch up on Faith’s story here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping her man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9 Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This thing called love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy…and Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 20: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: The Miscarriage 
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Not just friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Fight for him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: The Proposals 
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Lunch with the girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: Drama and Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Dem say, Dem say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: The Side Chick and the Fiancee
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: From Bad to Worst
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: My Sacred Vow to You
  81. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: Facebook Likes
  82. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 82: Pregnancy Queue
  83. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 83: Braxton Hicks
  84. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 84: The Verdict
  85. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 85: Home Sweet Home
  86. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 86: The Bridal Shower
  87. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 87: The Scare
  88. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 88: Nwando’s Wedding
  89. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 89: Time to face the music
  90. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 90: The Witch Hunt
  91. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 91: Bump Envy
  92. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 92: This Evil Family
  93. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 93: Thankful

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