Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 88: Nwando’s Wedding

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May 1st, 2013

I wasn’t in the mood to field any questions or sympathy calls from the office, so I switched off my phone for all of Monday and Tuesday, using Patrick’s phone for the important calls I had to make…like checking up on Ebika in London, and Diana of course…and also checking on my brother, Phillip, who’d returned on Monday morning, and was finding it hard adjusting to being separated from Diana.

Anyway, May 1st finally rolled along…my dear friend Nwando’s wedding day! I hadn’t seen her since Saturday’s rather dramatic bridal shower, and I was looking forward to being able to support her on her big day.

When Patrick tried to say something about if it was wise for me to put myself through the stress of attending a wedding, I gave him the dirtiest look ever, daring him to complete his statement. A wedding that I have been looking forward to since the day I heard about it! A wedding that I splurged on the cutest outfit ever for! No way oh! Absolutely nothing could have kept me away from it.

So, we headed to Obinna’s parents’ church, a Catholic church in Lawanson, Surulere, and got there just as the ceremony was about to start. But the church was already packed to the rafters! I remember Nwando having mentioned that her in-laws were very active members of their church, so I guess that could explain the heavy turnout.

When Nwando and her dad walked down the aisle, I had tears of joy in my eyes. Not only did she look beautiful in a bedazzled, mermaid-style gown, the joy on her face was only matched by the joy on her groom’s face. Both of them looked so happy and in love, I got the same glow I did at Phillip and Diana’s wedding, and squeezed my husband’s hand, so happy to have him with me for this one.

It was a beautiful ceremony, despite the fact that there were 2 other couples being wed at the same time. This shocked me, I won’t lie, but as nobody looked bothered, I figured it must be a norm in this Church. By the time we got to the thanksgiving part of the ceremony, the praise and worship was off the hook. The choir chimed uplifting and rhythmic Igbo praise songs, and with the loud drums and trumpets, it just made you want to dance! And dance I did, as I joined the crowd headed towards the 3 couples, to congratulate the couple I knew. When I finally got to them at the alter, Nwando squealed when she saw me, and we embraced tightly…but briefly, as I was soon ushered along, to make way for the long queue.

When the ceremony was over, Patrick tried to rush me to leave and quickly get to the reception venue, a few streets away, so that we could get some decent seats, but I wasn’t hearing any of it! I insisted on staying through the entire picture-taking session. The picture with the friends of the bride was a bit awkward, as it had both the ‘mean girls/frenemies’ from the bridal shower, and, well, the other nicer ones. Those of us that made up the latter group, happily embraced each other, while the mean girls had their faces so tight, the heavy foundation on their faces was threatening to crack. But we managed to get some decent shots, and the bride was so happy that she was oblivious of any tension that there might have been. Or maybe she just chose to ignore it…which was an even wiser decision.

Alas, we paid the price for not getting to the reception venue on time, as the place was jam-packed!!! In fact, jam-packed is even an understatement. The hall was filled to capacity, and the frantic ushers were navigating latecomers like us to seats outside. I was devastated! Imagine coming for my beloved friend’s wedding, only to sit outside!!!

I was even more devastated to realize that the ‘mean girls’ had been wise enough to send their husbands ahead to secure their seats, so as the rest of us stood at the door, looking like lost sheep, they had just waltzed right past us, with smug looks on their faces. Darn it!

But just as I was losing hope, one of Nwando’s colleagues (the one who shaded Nkeiru about earning 5 times her housekeeping allowance), and who hadn’t made it to Church, had reserved an entire table for us…and right up in front too! Even though it was a table originally for 10, we got the Ushers to bring more chairs, and it ended up comfortably seating 20 of us…friends and spouses. I almost felt like sticking my tongue out at the ‘mean girls’ on their table, which was even behind ours…but I chose to take the high road. We all did! So, we’d ignored them.

And when it was time for the couple to dance in, we all put away our differences, and boogied down with the couple, to Duncan Mighty’s Obianuju and Flavour Nabania’s Shake. I don’t think I ever imagined Nwando could dance the way she did. She and Obinna didn’t want to agree at all! They danced like their lives depended on it, and the crowd went wild!

The ceremony itself was a bit louder and busier than my own taste, with a little too many references to different ‘important personalities’ both families wanted to recognize…but the joy and happiness compensated for the rowdiness.

The high point for me wasn’t even the couple’s dance (to Luther Vandross’ So Amazing), but when Nwando’s mother was joined on the dance floor by her own sisters and friends. The woman had tears of joy in her eyes, as she danced to their native songs, waving her hands in the air in thanksgiving to God. Everyone could understand her joy…that one of her daughters had finally gotten married…and it was so emotional.

Unlike the normal me that would have bailed from the wedding right after Item 7, I actually stayed until the very end! I had to enjoy every minute of it. And boy, was I happy I did!

I’m going to miss my friend, but I am so overjoyed for her!

So…now, that’s out of the way. Tomorrow… three weeks after my outburst, it’s time to face the music at work!

 

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Catch up on Faith’s story here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping her man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9 Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This thing called love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy…and Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 20: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: The Miscarriage 
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Not just friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Fight for him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: The Proposals 
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Lunch with the girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: Drama and Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Dem say, Dem say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: The Side Chick and the Fiancee
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: From Bad to Worst
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: My Sacred Vow to You
  81. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: Facebook Likes
  82. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 82: Pregnancy Queue
  83. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 83: Braxton Hicks
  84. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 84: The Verdict
  85. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 85: Home Sweet Home
  86. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 86: The Bridal Shower
  87. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 87: The Scare

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