Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: Facebook Likes

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April 22nd, 2013

Yes, two might be company and three a crowd, but that was the last thing on my mind as I tagged along with Demola and Ebika, to her hospital. For some reason, I had underestimated what exactly she would be going through today. I had thought we would just walk into the hospital, her doctor would check her out, and give her the verdict.

But that was far from the case.

It wasn’t until I saw her pick up her already packed hospital bag, that I realized there would be surgery involved. Even though her doctor had the option of doing the biopsy laparoscopically, he preferred to go the open surgery route, so that he could remove every trace of the tumour, and also check for any other suspicious growth. So, she was actually scheduled to go under the knife today!

“Ebika!!! And you haven’t told your family?!” I shrieked, unable to comprehend the magnitude of what was happening.

“Faith, the last thing I need right now is them hovering and worrying! My Mum’s middle name is ‘panic’! I don’t need that drama abeg!”

After nagging her, she eventually agreed to call them after her surgery. As the three of us journeyed in the taxi, I said several prayers. I didn’t want to have to start telling her family any stories, if she didn’t make it through today’s surgery. But God forbid!

Getting to the hospital on Harley Street, they were already expecting her, and she was settled into her room right away. I was pleasantly surprised to observe how tender and loving Demola was. He petted and pampered her like a baby, and was at her beck and call for everything she needed. He even helped her to the toilet. This was not the pompous, arrogant, woman wrapper, adulterer I had imagined. They made such a beautiful, loving couple, that I finally understood why Ebika can’t let go.

As we waited, I decided to check my Facebook, and giggled when I saw that my brother had already changed his status to Married, and had uploaded over 50 pictures from yesterday’s ceremony. Seeing the pictures warmed my heart all over again. Yesterday had been the definition of perfect!

On one picture, with him and Diana doing their first dance, and gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes, I couldn’t resist commenting My brother and his lovely wife! Beautiful couple!

As I scrolled through my News Feed, admiring the other pictures, I got a notification of someone liking my comment. My eyes almost popped when I saw who it was. Idara!!!!

That was when I realized that she had actually liked every one of their pictures. All 57 of them! And on the last one, she commented Congrats! God bless your union!

And that was when my heart broke. That was when the anger over having been kept in the dark about their relationship dissipated, and in its place came an overwhelming pity for my friend. Despite the horrible circumstance, the fact remained that her heart had been broken…and I hadn’t been there for her. This was the same Idara who had consoled me when my first boyfriend, Folusho, had dumped me. The same Idara who had listened to all the complaints I’ve had about Patrick, over the years, and mediated in so many fights. The same Idara who, if not for her, I might have left my husband after that Toun episode, a few short months go.

“Faith, are you okay?” Ebika asked.

I smiled sadly. “Just looking at Idara’s comment on Phillip’s wedding picture. She actually liked every single one.”

Ebika squeezed my hand. “You should go see her.”

I nodded, and wiped away a tear. I owed my friend much more than a confrontational attack.

At 4.07pm, Ebika was wheeled away for her surgery, and Demola and I followed the gurney until they got to the theatre, after which we proceeded to sit in the waiting area, both of us extremely nervous.

“Faith, you need to go back to the flat, and get some rest. Don’t worry, I’ll call you as soon as there’s any news.” Demola said, looking at me with concern.

I shook my head. “If I leave here, only my body will be absent. My mind will still be here. So I might as well save myself the high blood pressure.”

He nodded, and we sat there in silence. I noticed how he was shaking his right foot nervously, and how his knuckles were almost white from repeated rubbing and cracking.

He saw me looking at him, and smiled. “Yes, I’m nervous.”

But beneath the smile, I saw his fear.

“Don’t worry. She’ll be fine.” I said, struggling to believe it myself.

“If anything happens to her, I’m not sure I’ll survive it.” Demola said, his voice breaking, shocking me in the process. “She’s my life.”

Yeah right! If we were under different circumstances, I would have had some choice words for him, but as we were in the hospital, I chose to keep my mouth shut. His life, but yet he remained married to another.

After a few minutes, he added, “I know you don’t like me much…and I can’t blame you. I haven’t treated her very well…”

I shook my head in agreement, still refusing to say what was really on my mind.

“Ebika has been the love of my life for over 15 years. I guess I just took it for granted that she would always be there. She was there for me when we were in University. If it wasn’t for her, I probably would have graduated with a Third Class. And when I married Oyinkan…she was there…and has always been there,” he shrugged, “I guess I just thought I could eat my cake and have it, you know…”

I sighed deeply, still pursing my lips. Knowing what my outbursts were like, I knew it would be best for me to just keep quiet.

“If I had wanted to, I could have stood up to my old man. I could have refused to marry Oyinkan. I could have insisted on marrying Ebika. But I didn’t. I was greedy. I didn’t want to risk being cut off. And as the years went by, I could still have made a decision…but I didn’t.”

“And when your Dad died? You still didn’t come for her right away! Instead, you made her have her 5th termination for you!” I spat, unable to control myself any longer.

Demola smiled. “I see she’s told you everything.”

I crossed my arms, and looked away.

“Again, it was me being greedy. Oyinkan and I have built a family together, and I couldn’t bear the thought of losing that either…” he paused for a few minutes. “But the thought of losing Ebika is so much worse for me…I can’t lose her…”

“But she can’t wait for you forever. It’s not fair to her.” I cut in.

He nodded, before looking at me. “You’re right. But, you know I love her with all my heart, right?”

I reached over, and squeezed his hand. “I know.”

At 6.43pm, Ebika was wheeled back to the room, and her doctor informed us that the mass had been removed, that it had been the only one, and that the results of the biopsy would be out by Thursday. So, we have three more days to just hope and pray for the best.

I finally agreed to head back to the flat, so I could get some rest. I walked to the nearest tube station (Regent’s Park), and when I got to Oxford Circus, instead of getting on the southbound Victoria line train, which was my route home, I found myself getting on the northbound one, and getting on the Northern line at Euston…headed towards Golders Green…to see Idara…

 

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Catch up on Faith’s story here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping her man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9 Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This thing called love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy…and Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 20: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: The Miscarriage 
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Not just friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Fight for him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: The Proposals 
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Lunch with the girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: Drama and Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Dem say, Dem say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: The Side Chick and the Fiancee
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: From Bad to Worst
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: My Sacred Vow to You

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