Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 113: Soul Searching

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June 15th, 2013

Just as I was beginning to think it was the most boring week ever, Ebika had texted me the name of some guy, and asked me to Google him. I had to smile, when I read her message. The girl is constantly full of drama, and always guaranteed to entertain me.

So, I checked the Emeka guy out. And I was impressed. He’s a Vice President with one of the big investment banks in Nigeria, prior to which he spent years in JP Morgan in London. And from the picture I found on his company website, he didn’t look bad at all.

I picked up my phone to text, but changed my mind and dialed her number instead. This conversation was not for texting! Thankfully, she answered her phone, and told me all about this Emeka fellow. It turns out that he has been asking her out for years! He moved back to Nigeria in 2010, met her at a mutual friend’s party shortly after, and has been on her case ever since…but she kept him at bay because she was ‘with someone else’.

“Babe, this past weekend, I did a lot of soul searching! I’m 35 years old, and here sharing a man with another woman! I realized that, if I’m not careful, this how 40 will meet me, still hanging around, waiting for crumbs from Demola’s table, and looking forward to whatever paltry time he can spend with me. Then…I thought of Emeka…a very eligible bachelor, who seems to genuinely like me…”

“So you called him?!” I squealed, my excitement bursting.

She giggled back. “He was so surprised to hear from me. We went out for dinner on Wednesday, and we’re meant to hang out again today!”

If it wasn’t for the heavy load I am carrying, I might have probably jumped on the bed! This was music to my ears…for Ebika to be considering a fresh start, with an unencumbered man!

“How was it? How did Wednesday’s date go?” I asked.

“Well…I won’t lie and say it was perfect. It felt awkward at first, being with someone other than Demola. I haven’t been in that kind of romantic situation with another man in over 15 years, so it felt really strange,” she admitted. “But as the evening progressed, I got more comfortable, and started enjoying his company.”

“Are you attracted to him?” I had to ask this very important question.

“He’s not as good looking as Demola…” she started, making my heart sink. “But he isn’t bad. He could actually grow on me!” she concluded, to my relief.

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Long after our call had ended, and especially as I had so much time on my hands, I proceeded to check out the Emeka guy even further. I browsed his Facebook pictures as far back as 2007, and I liked what I saw. There was a consistent mixed-race girl in his pictures from 2007 up to about 2009, and my conclusion is that she was his girlfriend. Clicking on her own profile, I saw that she is now married to someone else. Post 2009, there has been no consistent woman in his pictures, which are mainly of him alone, or with several groups of friends. He hasn’t done a lot of posting since 2011, but from the little that I saw there, it’s clear that he’s a fun person who, apparently, likes to travel. And the more I looked at his pictures, the better looking he looked to me. He doesn’t have Demola’s pretty-boy looks, instead he has more athletic and rugged features which, I think, are even more attractive. I hope Ebika doesn’t mess this up.

I also finally got to speak with Nwando yesterday evening, and she said she’d seen my doctor, and he also agreed that they commence IVF right away. To be honest, this surprised me, as I didn’t think my doctor was the aggressive sort. I wonder why he thinks this is the best option for her, especially considering the fact that all her tests have come back fine; tubes are clear, hormones are great, everything is textbook perfect. As Obinna already has kids, my guess is that he is also in good health as well. But I guess they don’t want to wait indefinitely, especially as age is a factor for her.

So, she’s waiting for her next period to start, after which she will see him, and get her specific cycle dates. I truly hope it all works out for her.

As for yesterday’s Baby Drizzle…hiss! Flop of life! Only 2 of us in the class contributed for the shower, the rest were just looking at the organizer like she’d grown 2 heads. I knew it would be a difficult sell, especially as all of us are pregnant, and nobody has organized any such shower for us in the class. It was quite awkward, and I felt sorry for the poor organizer. Thankfully, Ose didn’t show up, so I didn’t have to deal with the awkwardness of that.

Counting down!

 

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Catch up on Faith’s story here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping her man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9 Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This thing called love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy…and Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 20: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: The Miscarriage 
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Not just friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Fight for him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: The Proposals 
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Lunch with the girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: Drama and Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Dem say, Dem say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: The Side Chick and the Fiancee
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: From Bad to Worst
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: My Sacred Vow to You
  81. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: Facebook Likes
  82. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 82: Pregnancy Queue
  83. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 83: Braxton Hicks
  84. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 84: The Verdict
  85. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 85: Home Sweet Home
  86. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 86: The Bridal Shower
  87. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 87: The Scare
  88. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 88: Nwando’s Wedding
  89. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 89: Time to face the music
  90. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 90: The Witch Hunt
  91. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 91: Bump Envy
  92. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 92: This Evil Family
  93. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 93: Thankful
  94. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 94: People Watching
  95. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 95: New Beginnings
  96. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 96: Dispassionately
  97. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 97: Old Woman
  98. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 98: The Premonition
  99. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 99: The Girl is Fine
  100. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 100: Three weeks from now
  101. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 101: Diana & Akunna
  102. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 102: Of Daughters & Honeymoons
  103. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 103: Practice Run
  104. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 104: Cold Revenge
  105. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 105: Absolutely Nothing
  106. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 106: Selfish
  107. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 107: Back and Forth
  108. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 108: Chief Mourner
  109. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 109: He will never be mine
  110. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 110: The Showers
  111. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 111: Baby Mama 
  112. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 112: Counting Down

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