Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 108: Chief Mourner

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June 3rd, 2013

On Thursday, I will be 33 weeks pregnant! Can I get an AMEN!

I finally found out why I’ve been feeling so shattered. I thought it was normal to be feeling rubbish at this stage in pregnancy, I got my blood test results back, and it shows I’m anaemic. I have been prescribed three iron tablets a day, and hopefully I’ll be feeling a bit more perky soon. It’s apity they won’t have any effect on my boobs, as they are looking distinctly un- perky at the moment. Lol!

It’s also my last week at work, and I spent it rushing around, trying to get everything ready for when my maternity leave cover, Biodun, takes over next Monday. It was so hard to concentrate, that it took me ages using what was left of my brain cells just to write down a list of my daily tasks to give to my Manager for her. I made a mental note to try to clear out my space as best as I can, and to make sure to get rid of all the cracker crumbs accumulating in my locker, as a result of my ridiculous stash!

It does feel strange to know I’m being replaced. I keep thinking things like ‘What if they want to keep her rather than me?’ and ‘Won’t it have all changed when I come back?’ I’m still not sure what I want to do once the baby arrives, and if I want to return to work or not, but I’d prefer to keep my options open.

The hip and lower-back pain I have been feeling are out of this world sha! Whaaat! I read it’s because the ligaments and tendons around my pelvis are relaxing and softenening, to give my baby all the extra room it needs to travel through the birth canal, but right now, all that one is just grammar to me! I have also been experiencing a persistent tingling and numbness down my sciatic nerve…you know that line that runs from your lower back down the back of each leg. It’s not painful or anything…but I lose sensation there from time to time.

I’m quite worried about the fact that this baby might be born breech. According to Dr. Google, he/she should be positioned with his/her head sitting above my cervix. But from my scan last week, my baby is still chilling in an upright position. I’m quite worried, as this could possibly mean a c-section, and I’m not even ready for that kind of discussion!

At this stage, I’m finding it harder to be motivated to do anything other than lie down and put my feet up. But my doctor has ordered me to get enough exercise, so I intend to maybe get home in time to take a walk everyday. By the time my leave starts next week, this should be easier. He also suggested I read a lot about the labour process, so I’ll know what to expect. I like that he is still being optimistic about a natural birth, so I’ll do just that.

On another note, Toun, Patrick’s ex-girlfriend, who almost gave me a heart attack in London, lost her younger brother. He had moved back to Nigeria a few years ago, but had chosen to get involved with the wrong crowd. We’re told he was discovered in the toilet of a popular nightclub, slumped on the floor, after having overdosed on a lethal cocktail heroin, cocaine and ecstasy. Sad, but that’s not even the story. The real story is that Toun will be coming for the funeral, and she has asked Patrick to attend with her.

Hmmmm.

If he was just attending as a guest, I wouldn’t even be raising an eyebrow. But as her supposed only friend in Nigeria, and considering she’ll be acting the role of mother and father, as their parents are deceased, so wont be able to physically be at the ceremony, she has asked Patrick to give her the moral support she’ll need.

Hmmmmmmmm!

While this shouldn’t be a big deal, after all, I saw the woman myself in London, and know she’s really not any competition to me, I still don’t like the idea. And I told my husband as much. Imagine my shock, when he exclaimed.

“Haba, Faith! Don’t be mean! She has nobody to support her! Can you imagine how you’d feel losing a sibling, but with nobody to give you any moral support?”

“Don’t they have any Aunts or Uncles that can do that? Or even cousins sef?!” I demanded, not liking why my husband has been designated the chief mourner. What is it with this Toun sef? She’s hell bent on being a thorn in my flesh!

 

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“You know they moved to the UK years ago, and are no longer close to their extended family.” Patrick answered.

“Why don’t they just take him back to London, and bury him there?!” I insisted.

“Because they can’t afford to fly the body out, Faith! Don’t be difficult. And don’t be wicked. I know you have a better heart than that!” Patrick pleaded.

Frowning, I knew I had no choice but to release my husband to support his ex-girlfriend.

I taya!

 

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Catch up on Faith’s story here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping her man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9 Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This thing called love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy…and Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 20: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: The Miscarriage 
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Not just friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Fight for him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: The Proposals 
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Lunch with the girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: Drama and Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Dem say, Dem say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: The Side Chick and the Fiancee
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: From Bad to Worst
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: My Sacred Vow to You
  81. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: Facebook Likes
  82. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 82: Pregnancy Queue
  83. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 83: Braxton Hicks
  84. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 84: The Verdict
  85. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 85: Home Sweet Home
  86. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 86: The Bridal Shower
  87. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 87: The Scare
  88. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 88: Nwando’s Wedding
  89. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 89: Time to face the music
  90. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 90: The Witch Hunt
  91. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 91: Bump Envy
  92. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 92: This Evil Family
  93. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 93: Thankful
  94. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 94: People Watching
  95. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 95: New Beginnings
  96. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 96: Dispassionately
  97. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 97: Old Woman
  98. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 98: The Premonition
  99. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 99: The Girl is Fine
  100. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 100: Three weeks from now
  101. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 101: Diana & Akunna
  102. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 102: Of Daughters & Honeymoons
  103. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 103: Practice Run
  104. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 104: Cold Revenge
  105. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 105: Absolutely Nothing
  106. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 106: Selfish
  107. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 107: Back and Forth

 

 

 

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  1. Na wa ooo. It’s not about being wicked, soooo in this whole wide world this Toun woman did not see or think of who to mourn with her it’s your husband. Isss okay

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