Priscilla’s Story

I met Priscilla through a mutual friend in our TTC days. She had been trying for a few years longer than I, and she was one of those wonderful people who encouraged and inspired me. She agreed to let me share her story…

Getting pregnant didn’t come easy for us. What I thought would happen at the drop of a hat actually took us 4 years! And we were both young. I was 28 when we married, and my husband was 34. We were also relatively healthy, and had never had any major health issues, nor anything to indicate that we might have issues conceiving. Right from when were dating, God had been the center of our relationship, and we held on to Him in this trying period. But after a while, I just felt so stretched and overwhelmed…in every aspect of my life; in my spiritual life, in my physical body, in my mental and emotional health. I also struggled with hard questions with God! I kept asking him “God, why is it taking so long?”, “Why can some other people fall pregnant so easily and we can’t?”. Why? Why? and more Whys?

Shortly after our wedding, my husband was transferred to Germany. The relocation messed up my cycle. At the time, I had no idea why this was so, because I had way more regular cycles before we moved. So in the beginning, I thought, “Well I just have to sort out my cycles and everything will be fine”. After a year of irregular cycles, I finally went to see a doctor, followed by another doctor, and then yet another. I was sent for endless blood tests and was monitored to find out the cause of my irregular cycles. Eventually, I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), a hormonal imbalance that causes irregular cycles and poor ovulation.

I proceeded to read more about it, and was consoled by stories of a popular celebrity (a former member of a girl band, and now a fashionista, married to a footballer), who apparently also had it, and had gone ahead to have 3 healthy children at the time (and later had a 4th). So I wasn’t too worried. This was until I was prescribed Metformin for my PCOS, which gave me migraines, made me vomit incessantly, in addition to all sorts of unpleasant side effects. It took months before my body could adjust to this medication, all with the hope of regulating my cycles. But alas, my cycles were still NOT regulated after taking this medication.

So, we proceeded to see a fertility specialist, and finally both of us were checked. Truth be told, I always thought the “problem” lay with me. But it was discovered that my hubby had issues too! He was diagnosed with low sperm count, as well as a bacterial infection. So he was placed on his own treatment plan, which involved medication (antibiotics inclusive), vitamins, and diet changes.

Whilst all this was happening, I found myself really struggling. I didn’t know anybody in real life who struggled with the same issue. And somehow among Christians, infertility felt like a taboo topic that nobody talked about! It was like you weren’€™t supposed to have infertility if you believe in an Almighty God, who’s able to heal and bless. We certainly believed in God. And we believed in His promises that He would bless us with biological children. But as we stretched ahead in our TTC wilderness, our faith started to wane. I knew that I had to garner support…spiritual support, and also lots of prayers!

We confided in family and very close friends back in Nigeria, and I made many new friends in Germany, who became like sisters-in-war with me. I got to know other Christian friends (online) who were open to talk about this issue and was connected to other couples who’d “been there, done that”.

I THANK GOD truly for these gems. If not, this journey would have been the loneliest and toughest one I would ever had to go through. But it wasn’t always rosy. Sometimes, I would share my struggle with infertility with other couples who were also trying to conceive, but they would never share their story with me. It sometimes made me feel like we were the only ones struggling with this issue, but I was quickly consoled by the people in my support system that were willing to share, talk, and encourage.

Eventually, my cycle became regulated after being on Metformin for close to 18 months, and I was placed on clomid for a few cycles. I didn’t ovulate on a lower dose, but did when this dose was increased, and I was placed on progesterone suppositories, in addition. My husband’€™s infection had cleared at this point, and his sperm count, though much improved, was anything but perfect. So, even though I was ovulating now, we didn’t get pregnant. On the 4th clomid cycle, my doctor and I agreed that I would move on to injectibles if the cycle failed again. Even with the good news of a phenomenal improvement in my husband’s sperm quality (count, motility, and morphology), that cycle, I was well and truly fed up. I didn’t even bother with my usual temperature charting or ovulation predictor kits (OPKs). My mind was already focused on the next cycle, when we would be changing strategy. When my period was delayed, I was afraid that my cycle had gone out of whack again, and delayed taking a pregnancy test for several days. Eventually, on Christmas Eve 2010, I gave in and took one…and we got a wonderful Christmas surprise!!! Our beautiful son was born in August 2011!

When our son was almost a year old, I wanted to see if I was ovulating on my own. I decided to track my cycles, before seeing if I wanted to go back to the Fertility clinic for clomid. I wasn’t even sure what day exactly I had ovulated, that first cycle, as I had 3 positive OPK results in a row. And my husband and I only had sex once! Imagine my shock when I realized I had pregnant!!!! After almost 4 years conceiving my first son, his brother was conceived in the first month of a weak attempt at trying!

I’m so thankful that God heard our prayers, and the prayers of our friends and family who all saw our desire to have kids of our own. And this testimony will not be complete without my sharing some of the key lessons I learnt!

I came to the realization that infertility is not a sin. And there is nothing to be ashamed of. God is God in the middle of everything. Everything. During our journey, I realized so many women of the Bible struggled with infertility. Hannah. Sarah. Rebecca. And they poured their hearts out to God. And their stories are there for the entire world to read in the Bible. So likewise, I poured my heart to God, and He came through for me!

Thanks so much for allowing me share this, Priscilla. God bless you and those two gorgeous boys! I hope this story is able to serve as a source of encouragement and inspiration to someone out there!

Baby dust to all!

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Comments

  1. precious

    Thank you for this story my faith has increased n l know God will do my own soon.pls abt metformin can you give us d idea for d dose.thanks

    1. Nicole Post author

      Hi precious! HE surely will.The dosage varies per person, so you might need to consult your doctor hun. :hug:

  2. Sophia

    Hmmm thanks for sharing. My story is almost the same as yours just that I didn’t have any problem but my husband did. But now he good than before. But we are still trying to conceive. And we will be celebrating our fifth anniversary this December. But I am still positive my time will come one day

    1. Nicole Post author

      We are praying with you, Sophia hun! Let’s thank God for the progress made with your husband’s sperm quality. By GOD’s grace, all your efforts will soon be crowned with glory! :hug:

  3. Ernestina

    Wow. God has a plan for everyone. Patience is wat we all need. Congratulations dear.

  4. fola

    That’s a wonderful story, my faith is boosted by it.

  5. gwen

    My faith has been boosted by ur story. Been waiting 15 years. I know my time is near.

  6. stephanie

    Have read few of your stories n am happy there is a blog like dis were women can express their selves. Am not married tho still an undergraduate but am happy at least you som1 dey can talk 2 some1 dey know they can rely on who won’t go back and mock them.THANK YOU but if i may ask what is the meaning of ttc?

    1. Nicole Post author

      Thanks for your very kind words, stephanie :hugs:. God bless you hun! TTC means Trying To Conceive :hugs:

  7. MumTofunmi

    This a testimony to the faithfulness of God. TTC can be a very lonely and scary journey if one lacks proper social and moral support. I know God is a faithful God, but after doing about 10 IVF cycles in 8years at different countries with no baby to show for it, it becomes harder for me to still believe in the efficacy of prayers. But I know prayer is the only solution. I have paid my dues on this ttc journey! Right now, am expectantly waiting to see what God will do in my situation, even sooner than expected.

    1. Nicole Post author

      It is very easy to lose our faith in this TTC journey, @mumsoon hun…but we just have to keep holding on to God. HE will most surely bless us! :hugs:

  8. ng

    sometimes God lets us go through what we go through for the purpose of encouraging others. Thank you for sharing your story. May God bless and watch over your adorable sons in Jesus name. Amen.

  9. heavens

    Thank you so much for that beautiful story, trying to conceive can be a really lonely journey and trust me the church NEVER helps, am so glad to have read this and it’s increased my desire to have children, most times I get so depressed and cry like the whole world is against me sometimes I just want to die!

    Thank you Nicole.

  10. Pamela

    God is indeed a great God, and he is able to do what no man can do,I pray for this miracle in me and my husband life. We are also going thru same please we need your prayers too thanks and God bless. Thanks Nicole for sharing your experience.

    1. Nicole Post author

      Will be praying with you, Pamela :hugs:. Our GOD is a great GOD indeed, and HE never fails! Good luck hun :hugs: :hug:

  11. Uren

    Thanks for sharing your story. I’ve been TTC for about eight years now and I believe strongly someday I will get to share my testimony just like you. It has not been an easy journey, I’ve become isolated and cut off lots of relationships to avoid being hurt. My hubby, siblings and colleages are the” friends” I have now. It’s quite frustrating to also think that my biological clock is ticking and menopause draws nearer…but I’m not giving Up!
    Thanks once more for this encouragement.

    1. Oluwakemi

      Uren, indeed, your story will end in praise. Just do you and the things that make you happy now, TTC or not.

    2. Nicole Post author

      Dear Uren, I know the feeling of isolation. There was a time I too had pretty much cut everyone off from my life. Never give up hun! When Jesus says yes, no biological clock can say no! Sending you :hugs: hun. Are you on any course of treatment?

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