Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 110: He Will Never Be Mine

June 4th, 2013

Phillip called early this morning, to let me know he’s back in Lagos. I was glad to hear from my brother, not only because I’m always relieved when he returns from Escravos in one piece, but also because we hadn’t spoken a lot since our last conversation. I’d given him space, because it was clear that he was going through his own emotional upheaval over his marital problems. Thankfully, it’s as if the time allowed him see things in a different perspective.

“I’ve decided to travel this weekend. I might as well,” he’d said.

“What made you change your mind?” I asked.

“We both gain nothing by being angry. If we want this marriage to work, one of us has to bend. Yes, I’m not pleased that she hasn’t taken any of my calls, but I see now why she feels the way she does.”

I nodded, happy that this issue is headed towards a peaceful resolution. Well, at least with respect to Phillip. As for me, I’m still mad as hell with her, and will not be making any moves, in any shape or form, to speak with her.

“Thank God!” Ebika exclaimed, when I gave her the good news. “I’m so happy for them!”

I looked at her closely. She didn’t seem as depressed and moody as she’d been for the past few days, and I wondered if she and Demola had also resolved their own issue.

“Are you okay?” I asked. “Is Demola back?”

“Demola!” Ebika said, smiling sadly. “Faith, that man will never be mine…”

My mouth opened, but I struggled with any words, so shocked was I to hear this sudden change in resolve from my friend.

“I spoke with him yesterday…and when I asked him when he was coming home, you know what he said to me?”

I shook my head, still shocked.

“That he was already home. He told me not to get confused about our arrangement…and how the fact that he and I are getting married doesn’t change the fact that Oyinkan is still also his wife. He said he intends to stay for as long as he needs to, to bond with his little girl…” she laughed, but there was no humour in the laughter. “I thought I finally had what I thought was mine…but this is just a glorified timeshare! When he tires of Oyinkan and their kids, he will come here to me…until he decides to go back to her again…”

 

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“But I thought you were prepared for this, Ebika. He has a family, I thought you were ready for this arrangement…”

“I was naïve to think that what we have is different from anything he ever had with Oyinkan. But did you see all those Instagram pictures? Did you see the way they were both looking at each other? Did you see how made a glorified fool of me, on social media?”

Hmmm, Instagram! Breaking families since 2010!

“Don’t get me wrong, Faith. I’m not making any drastic decision…at least not right now. I’ve just decided not to let anything get me down.”

I nodded. Fair enough, I guess.

Eager to change the topic, I told her all about my dilemma with Patrick’s ex-girlfriend, Toun, and her request to have him support her at her brother’s funeral.

“There’s nothing there oh! Let him go. I don’t think you have anything to worry about,” she said, surprising me.

“Did you hear the part about her being his ex-girlfriend?”

“Didn’t you tell me how you all had dinner, in London? How you saw with your own two eyes that there was no more chemistry between them?” Ebika countered, before adding a sarcastic laugh. “Can’t you see from my case that being an old girlfriend doesn’t mean NATIN?! Family always comes first oh. I don’t think Patrick will do anything to compromise you, the woman who will have his baby any second now!”

Well, if she put it that way.

“Should I go with him?” I asked, unsure.

“For what now?” Ebika retorted. “Why put yourself through that kind of rubbish stress. Tell him to pick one day, only one oh…before the Toun starts getting ideas. It’s either the Wake Keep or the Funeral, let them decide which he will attend, and trust him to do the right thing.”

I nodded. She’s right. I do need to trust my husband more. Deep inside, I know he won’t do anything stupid. I guess I just don’t like the idea of another woman parading him around, even if it’s for only a few hours. But hey, she might want to deceive herself for a few hours…but I have him for a lifetime.

And that’s what’s up B-) !

 

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Catch up on Faith’s Pregnancy Diary here:

  1. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 1: BFP
  2. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 2: Lukewarm Response
  3. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 3: The Struggle
  4. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 4: Tricked
  5. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 5: Keeping Her Man
  6. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 6: Men are so Annoying!
  7. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 7: Bleeding
  8. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 8: The 9-Week Mark
  9. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 9: Festive
  10. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 10: The Holiday
  11. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 11: This Thing Called Love
  12. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 12: The Pregnancy Glow
  13. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 13: The Baby & The Bobo
  14. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 14: Wahala
  15. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 15: The Abortion
  16. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 16: A Good Man
  17. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 17: Joy & Pain
  18. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 18: Hostage
  19. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 19: Ammunition
  20. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 21: Famzing
  21. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 22: Stress Relief
  22. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 23: Diana
  23. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 24: Bestos
  24. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 25: The Miscarriage
  25. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 26: In God’s Hands
  26. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 27: Crossing the line
  27. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 28: Last Minute Packing
  28. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 29: Ex-Girlfriend
  29. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 30: Not Just Friends
  30. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 31: Fight For Him
  31. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 32: Faded Beauty
  32. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 33: Holiday Glow
  33. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 34: The Proposals
  34. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 35: Baby Kicks
  35. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 36: Celebration Dinner
  36. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 37: Rainbow Baby
  37. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 38: Lunch with the Girls
  38. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 39: Wedding Season
  39. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 40: Mama Patrick
  40. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 41: Misplaced Love
  41. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 42: Okafor’s Law
  42. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 43: Forgiveness
  43. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 44: Get it over with
  44. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 45: Family Meeting
  45. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 46: The Goof
  46. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 47: Worship
  47. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 48: Gender
  48. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 49: The Introduction
  49. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 50: Messy
  50. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 51: Passionate Love
  51. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 52: Instagram Drama
  52. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 53: 21 Weeks
  53. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 54: Oppressed
  54. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 55: Age is just a number
  55. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 56: Legally Together
  56. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 57: Monkey on my back
  57. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 58: Your secret is safe with me
  58. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 59: Spring in my step
  59. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 60: Level don change
  60. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 61: It’s my time
  61. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 62: Drama & Baby Kicks
  62. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 63: Love, Joy, Fear
  63. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 64: Owerri
  64. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 65: Untouchable
  65. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 66: Foot Soldiers
  66. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 67: Dem Say, Dem Say
  67. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 68: The Side Chick & The Fiancé
  68. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 69: Dim-Witted Brother
  69. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 70: Day from hell
  70. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 71: A Cancelled Wedding & a Kept Woman
  71. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 72: From Bad to Worst!
  72. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 73: The Confrontation
  73. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 74: Away we go!
  74. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 75: Birthday Girl
  75. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 76: Caught Red-Handed
  76. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 77: Played by a Master Manipulator
  77. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 78: Showdown
  78. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 79: Sad Tears, Happy Tears
  79. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 80: Not the forever kind of love
  80. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 81: My Sacred Vow to you
  81. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 82: Facebook Likes
  82. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 83: Pregnancy Queue
  83. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 84: Braxton Hicks
  84. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 85: The Verdict
  85. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 86: Home Sweet Home
  86. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 87: The Bridal Shower
  87. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 88: The Scare
  88. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 89: Nwando’s Wedding
  89. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 90: Time To Face The Music
  90. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 91: The Witch Hunt
  91. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 92: Bump Envy
  92. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 93: This Evil Family
  93. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 94: Thankful
  94. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 95: People Watching
  95. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 96: New Beginnings
  96. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 97: Dispassionately
  97. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 98: Old Woman
  98. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 99: The Premonition
  99. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 100: The Girl is Fine!
  100. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 101: Three Weeks From Now
  101. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 102: Diana & Akunna
  102. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 103: Of Daughters and Honeymoons
  103. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 104: Practice Run
  104. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 105: Cold Revenge
  105. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 106: Absolutely Nothing
  106. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 107: Selfish
  107. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 108: Back and Forth
  108. Faith’s Pregnancy Diary 109: Chief Mourner

 

Comments

  1. Bos

    awwww Ebika has grown sense……..lol @ glorified timeshare!

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